1-2-3 Magic Teen: communicate, connect and guide your teen to adulthood, is written by Thomas W. Phelan who also wrote 1-2-3 Magic. In this paperback you will find tools and advice to help you parent your maturing teen to diminish conflict and further relationship building. With an up and coming teen, this is helpful information.
About Dr. Phelan
A registered clinical psychologist, Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D. has worked with children, adults and families for over 35 years. He is a member of the APA. He writes, produces, lectures, and guest spots on radio and TV. He has worked on the boards national (USA) organizations that help parents with autistic children.
What You Get:
This book is divided into six sections with between 2 and five subsections.
These sections are entitled
1. Straight Thinking
2. Don’t Take it Personally.
3. Manage and Let Go.
4. Stay in Touch.
5. Take Care of Yourself.
6. Relax and Enjoy the Movie.
Much of the advice given is through the presentation of a scenario, with a less than positive outcome, and then the same scenario replayed with a more positive outcome. This done through text as well as cartoons.
I liked how Dr. Phelan follows up the change he hopes to see in our parenting with how to change out what we might be thinking, with what might be truth.
Throughout the book you’ll find little cut outs that help you either think a bit more about a topic or teaches a key concept.
I appreciated that each section broke down the key concepts that would be presented.
There is much in this book that I like. I have to admit to struggling with some of the adverse reactions that were portrayed. Partly because I don’t tend to believe that most teenage angst needs to be as bad as people say it is. I grew up in a household where as teens we had our struggles but we didn’t allow (or weren’t allowed to let) our moodiness to affect the overall operation and attitude of the household. Time is too short in life to allow a bad mood to take over your life. I appreciated that each chapter concluded with a summation of the lessons learned.
I struggled with the story on page 28-29 where the author seems to be blaming the parents for the poor behaviour, the reckless endangering behaviour of their son. And it makes me wonder… why is it the parents fault if their teenagers don’t react well and/or make poor decisions? Part of maturity is learning how to handle disagreements well, and that takes both sides of the party to back off and think through their statements/comments to each other does it not? There is much good in this book and I am glad that I read it through. It’s given me additional information in the checking of my own thoughts as I enter into the teen years with my boy.