The question facing us in someways. Now that mom is gone, who will draw us together? Family gatherings have fallen to the wayside over the past couple of years since mom has been declining. So what happens now? Will someone in the family pivot to cover the gap? Or will things happen as does in other families… the mom/dad dies and the family just falls apart? I would hope not. But I’m not quite sure how to do about rebuilding community in my family… Let’s explore this a bit perhaps eh? Because sometimes I don’t know how to pivot.
Don’t Know How to Pivot
Introverted, sensitive
to noise, and not handling
crowds well. Anything more
than one is a crowd.
So can one pivot from
how they are to be
something more for the
sake of togetherness?
I don’t know?
Does it have to be me
to pivot or can I be a
cog in the wheel of change?
Calling folks to plan?
If so, how does one
do that? I’m not a
planner so figuring the
logistics cause inward screams.
So I don’t know how
Is there a book, a
podcast, or youtube
that gives hints or a
step by step?
That would be helpful,
It’s not that I don’t know
how to pivot, it’s something
one does in life.
How to learn?
the pivoting with
unnamed/unlearned skills
seems a bit out
on a tree limb.
Maybe I’m getting
ahead of the game and
my sis, younger than,
will step into the gap?
Hope arises….
Maybe you and your sis can do it together?
First of all I’m sorry for the loss of your mom. I know how devastating that can be. All I can say is put your complete trust in the Lord. He will get you through this. I came from FMF and I’m #12
Thank you. God is good.
i hope we can figure something…
Perhaps the way to still gather is to plan it all together. It may not seem as overwhelming or task any one person with it all.
i am hoping to find a way to do that. To make it a group decision I think.
I love how you described your problem of not knowing how to pivot. It’s hard to think of things out of our comfort zones. Maybe like someone else suggested, you and your sister can work together on bringing the family together. Anyway, of course, the first thing to do is pray, asking God for wisdom in it all. He will show you. Blessings to you!
thank you for your comments. 🙂
Oh, Yes! My thoughts exactly! In Dave’s family the daughter (of five children) has taken up the banner of unifying. In my family, it’s just me and my brother and, as it just happens, he has moved closer to us, so that’s an easy one. My kids are all random and independent (I raised them that way) so I can invite or organize, but they may or may not come. And that’s okay. In this situation, my oldest daughter (always taking on too much) is the organizer – even if I forget! Blessings on the Figuring Out of It. (FMF#6)
We’re all really independent as well, so that plays a role too. We’ll get it figured I’m sure.